It's getting harder to socialize in our angry, polarized nation. Here's a guide with fresh insight on how to understand people -- even those we barely tolerate.
Thank you Cindy. Sadly I know a few diminishers. I just ordered that book. Can’t wait to read it. Hoping it will help me with the people I know who are like that. Always enjoy reading your Substack!
Kat, thanks for reading -- and I hope you'll let me know what you think of the book after you've read it. It goes far beyond politics, and speaks to everyday-life concerns.
"You want to be listening so actively that you're practically burning calories" Great quote! Fantastic! Loved this, Cindy! Great read. Thank you for sharing. Advice we all need to heed right now. May we all lean in a little harder, illuminate as much as possible, and bring even those lost in the darkness into the light. As Dr. King reminds us, "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."
Love this post so much, Cindy! I feel like a lot of what has caused so much divisiveness is that very few people have the skill of being an illuminator. So no one feels heard. Which means few people feel respected or valued. I hope it’s a skill that can be taught, and that people start to realize it’s a skill we ALL need to have if we’re going to get along (despite our differences). Thanks for an illuminating post!!
There are many diminishers out there proudly wearing MAGA hats and bullying their fellow Americans and the world.
You said it, sister ! Thanks for weighing in.
Thank you Cindy. Sadly I know a few diminishers. I just ordered that book. Can’t wait to read it. Hoping it will help me with the people I know who are like that. Always enjoy reading your Substack!
Kat, thanks for reading -- and I hope you'll let me know what you think of the book after you've read it. It goes far beyond politics, and speaks to everyday-life concerns.
That’s what I was hoping. I let you know. In he meantime keep on writing. It’s all good & relevant stuff. 👍
"You want to be listening so actively that you're practically burning calories" Great quote! Fantastic! Loved this, Cindy! Great read. Thank you for sharing. Advice we all need to heed right now. May we all lean in a little harder, illuminate as much as possible, and bring even those lost in the darkness into the light. As Dr. King reminds us, "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."
Thanks, Michelle -- and I love the Dr. King quote!
I am not familiar with the book, but LOVE the concept if illuminators and diminishers. And such good tips. Thank you.
Thanks, Betsy. I believe both you and Joe would enjoy this book, especially with your work in coaching!
Love this post so much, Cindy! I feel like a lot of what has caused so much divisiveness is that very few people have the skill of being an illuminator. So no one feels heard. Which means few people feel respected or valued. I hope it’s a skill that can be taught, and that people start to realize it’s a skill we ALL need to have if we’re going to get along (despite our differences). Thanks for an illuminating post!!
Thanks, Lisa, I enjoyed your recent post as well -- spot on!
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